6 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T FORCE YOURSELF INTO A RELATIONSHIP
Published On : 2015-01-05 09:44:34
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6 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T FORCE YOURSELF INTO A RELATIONSHIP

 

A relationship is one of those things where you just can’t sit on the fence; it’s either you are willing to have a relationship with that person or you are not—anything other than this wouldn’t pan out well.

 

 

People actually force themselves into relationships which they aren’t really sure of and some are even forced into relationships they don’t like at all, probably due to pressure from family and friends, or they are driven by loneliness or because they just feel they should be in a relationship rather than because they have seen a partner they like.

 

If you are thinking of going into an enforced relationship, there are certain things you should know about such relationships.

 

1. YOU WOULDN’T GIVE YOUR ALL

 

If you aren’t in love, you aren’t in love; love isn’t an emotion you force upon yourself, it comes when least expected, sometimes with someone unexpected and also makes you act ways not expected—it’s natural and not something we can really bring upon ourselves. So when you don’t love your partner totally, you wouldn’t give in your all in that relationship, not because you don’t want to but because you are not motivated enough to.

 

 

2. YOU MIGHT END UP HURTING YOUR PARTNER

 

 

Imagine a relationship where one partner is totally in love and the other is just lukewarm; it might lead the partner that’s totally in love to get hurt. Forcing yourself into a relationship might mean hurting a partner that’s totally in love with you.

 

 

3. THE RELATIONSHIP WOULD LACK PASSION

 

 

Passion is something that can’t be created by just one relationship partner; for a relationship to be passionate it needs two partners who are totally into each other and who truly care about each other—if one partner is ready and the other isn’t then the relationship would flop.

 

4. THERE IS A PROBABILITY YOU MIGHT CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER

 

The lesser you are in love with your partner might just mean the higher the chances you might see someone you could fall in love with, and that might lead to cheating on your partner. When you are truly in love with your partner, cheating is hardly an option, but when the love is haphazard then there is every tendency.

 

5. AN ENFORCED RELATIONSHIP WOULDN’T MAKE YOU HAPPY

 

A relationship is supposed to make you happy, it’s supposed to bring the joy which hitherto wasn’t seen, but that’s a relationship where love exists between both partners not when one partner is disgruntled. If you can’t find happiness in your partner then you would hardly find happiness in that relationship.

 

6. YOU WOULDN’T VALUE THE RELATIONSHIP

 

People enter relationships for wrong reasons; some for wealth and some for other selfish reasons they can gain. The truth is when you enter a relationship that you don’t have feelings for your partner, when you enter a relationship that was forced upon you or that you forced on yourself, there would come that time when you would lose value of the relationship.

 

 

Except in rare cases where people fall in love with that partner they previously didn’t have feelings for, an enforced relationship never pans out well—unhappiness is rest assured in such a relationship.

 

Shawn

 
 
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